Episode 81: Raising Luminaries: Raising Independent Leaders- It Starts With You

April 14, 2022

DO YOU FEEL THAT HEAVY CALL IN YOUR HEART TO REALLY POUR INTO YOUR CHILDREN’S GROWTH? Do you want your kids to really find their thing, to connect to their purpose, to become these resilient little leaders who aren’t bothered by the things other people think? 

You see other kids, face down on their phones or numbing out in front of the TV, and you feel that spark in your gut that says: “I want more for my kids.” You have the vision, but you’re not sure how to follow through. 

It is so freaking hard to find the bandwidth to help facilitate that vision and have it come to life. There’s so much on your plate. You’re an entrepreneur, you’re a parent and you’re a leader. Those are three really big titles that require a lot. Between running your business and keeping up with the demands of the market, not to mention the demands of your home and your health, how and where do you find the time to lead your kids? 

This is an episode of hope and possibility. It’s one shifting your perspective and taking on the most important call you will ever have in your life – Raising Luminaries. 

Let’s raise them up right!


[2:43] Get Yourself to Camp Luminary!

If you haven’t thought of joining  Camp Luminary, I want to let you know what it’s all about. First of all, we have upleveled it. It now includes the very first mastermind for entrepreneurial parents and their kids.

I understand what it feels like to feel guilty when you are working, like you should be with the kids-  and then stressed when you are with the kids because you should be working. And on top of that, feeling like you are at max capacity, just stressed and spread thin and hurried and you know it’s not the life you want to live. You know that’s not what’s best for your kids. But how do you get out of it?

And then you look at your kids and you wonder- Are they being influenced by their environment? Are we  even connected anymore? Am I even able to influence them positively to support them to tap into who they are called to be? I see insecurities rising up but I want them to be confident and courageous. So how do I do that?

This experience at Camp is literally going to have you come into camp one way and leave as a different person, as a different family. We are designing  Camp to have the mastermind lead up to camp and then bookend you coming out of it. This is the only time we are going to include a mastermind with Camp Luminary so I hope you will take advantage!

This is an investment in your family’s future. This is an investment in your quality of life and your calling. This is  an investment in your children. You will learn what is required of you, what tools you need to  equip yourself to model leadership for your children so they can become the leaders they are called to be.

We have amazing guest speakers lined up. You won’t believe the people you are going to be sitting at picnic tables with – a lot of people’s podcasts you listen to or you have seen them speak on stage. It’s going to be a special, life-changing weekend.

Get yourself to Camp! Go to luminaryleadershipco.com/camp to sign up!

Rooms are going super fast so if this is on your heart, if you feel called to this- be there with us!

[5:28] The Wall of “How”

I feel so infinitely blessed to do the work that I do. 

Walking alongside passionate, hardworking visionaries who are willing to fight for their dream and their mission, is such a privilege and I’m so grateful. But after 10 years of working alongside them, I have seen a common thread. These people, myself included, desperately want to raise their kids up to thrive beyond society’s standards and help to craft these kids into creative and critical thinking independent leaders, who have the courage to go after their purpose. 

That fire is amazing, but every single one of these parents hits some kind of wall in the process, because a desire and a plan to obtain it are two very different things. The wall that they hit is one of “how.” They want it so bad, and they’re ready to do the hard work, but they’re not sure how or where to start.

[7:55] Giveaway Time! Get Your Business Question Answered by Me 

We’re celebrating the new season of the Luminary Leadership Podcast with an exciting opportunity for you as a potential lucky winner!

From April 4th through April 15th, you can enter into a drawing to submit your most pressing business questions to me. I’ve been doing this for a decade and I love coaching people but usually the only way you can have access to me for something like this is through my programs and my masterminds, but this time you will get it for free. I will give you my breakthrough feedback and send it to you so that you can have that next level launching pad into where you’re called to next. So, if you’re ready to make some massive progress and see huge growth in your business in a quick time frame, here’s your chance. 

All you have to do to enter is rate and review the show in Apple Podcasts. Once you’ve done that, you’re going to take a screenshot of the review and email it to [email protected]. If you’ve already rated and reviewed the show, first of all thank you. We want you to have a chance to get this giveaway too, so just share this episode on your socials and tag me @elizhartke and you will be entered into this giveaway.

[11:00] It Starts with You 

Not only do we not know exactly what to do or how to raise our kids up in leadership and possibility, but could we be actively making it harder for them without even knowing it? 

Here’s the good news and the bad news – it starts with you. It’s good news because it means  you’re in control; it’s bad news because you can’t bypass this part. 

Even though you are eager to raise independent leaders, the quickest way there is in connection with a leader (you) who is modeling it and shepherding them through it. Now, you might think you’re strapped for time and you are freaking exhausted and you don’t know how. And I get that, because I have felt it too, but then I realized that the answer was more simple than I was making it up to be: bring them along for the ride. Let them see your growth, your commitment to learning, your mistakes, your hard work. 

It starts with you around the dinner table, without distractions, asking the right questions and actually listening and hearing your children. Being a truly present leader figure in their lives and starting to bring the same level of intention into your home that you bring into your business. 

That is the key. 

[13:22] Unhurried Leadership 

What is the cost of not doing this? 

Do I really want my kids just mindlessly following society’s plan for their lives, instead of standing up for their values and breaking the rules and becoming who they’re called to be? Do I really want to just be their chauffeur and event coordinator and not have that deep connection that’s both going to bring so much joy to my life, but also so much impact to theirs? 

There’s so many things that are on the line. When I think about all of it and I think about what I want this life to mean and the legacy I want to leave – it’s with them. 

I know that all of this can be overwhelming and you’re not sure where to start, which is why I’ve developed a tool specifically for entrepreneurs to help you come up with a plan. Unhurried Leadership is a 10-part process that’s going to help you gain clarity on the right things worthy of your time, and how to create the space to focus your time and energy there, so that you can step into the leader you need to become in order to be the one taking your kids to that finish line, helping them break free of the pressure and the need for validation so that they can become the person they’re called to be – confident, brave, purposeful, joy-filled and thriving. 

So, head over to https://luminaryleadershipco.com/unhurried to download our free workbook. 

I hope today’s episode gave you what you need to shift your perspective and take on the most important call you will ever have in your life – Raising Luminaries. Make sure to rate and review our show on Apple Podcasts to enter our giveaway. Take a screenshot of the review and email it to [email protected].

Come connect with me on Instagram at @elizhartke and if there’s a topic, a question or a guest you want to hear on the show or an idea you have for us, just reach out and share that. We do this for you so the more you tell us the more we can serve!


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