TODAY’S CONVERSATION HAS BEEN A LONG TIME COMING!
Trust me when I tell you that you’re going to want to listen in and likely rewind and relisten.
You might know Tonya for her previous book Joy Of Missing Out, but today we’re talking all about her most recent book On Purpose: The Busy Woman’s Guide to an Extraordinary Life of Meaning and Success.
So often we’re all striving for the next goal, for the next vision in our lives, for the thing that we most want. But it comes at the sacrifice of us. It comes at the sacrifice of joy, of purpose and meaning. And when we really think about it, what we’re all really craving is that significance.
In today’s episode Tanya Dalton and I have a conversation about exactly that.
IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVER:
[3:24] Making a Big Decision
Tanya’s entrepreneurship journey began in 2008. She started off life thinking she was going to be a teacher and then a stay at home mom. But then she had a conversation that changed everything in her life. At that time, she was running around doing things with two small kids while her husband was traveling around the world, doing international marketing for a Fortune 500 company, and leaving their home for two to three weeks at a time. One night, they were chatting on the phone about what was going on, about all the things that the kids were doing and all of a sudden her husband got really quiet. After a few moments, he said: I’m missing everything. I’m missing all the moments, I’m missing all the milestones. I’m missing it all.
That night, after she hung up the phone, Tanya’s whole life changed. She made a big decision: she was going to grow her tiny little side hobby business that she started with $50 to absorb her husband’s MBA income, and let him come and work alongside her. Within about a year, she made that goal happen.
In 2012, they moved to Asheville, North Carolina, and life was great…until 2013. Tanya realized that her work is not fulfilling her, it’s not making the impact she really wanted in the world. So, she created a bunch of exercises for herself to really dive into who she was and what she really desired. And out of that her company Inkwell Press Productivity Co was born. They closed their other company, went without any income for five to six months and scaled Inkwell Press to seven figures in less than 18 months. Out of that came Tanya’s podcast and then her first book The Joy of Missing Out, which was named a top 10 Business Book of the Year, and now her latest book On Purpose: The Busy Woman’s Guide to an Extraordinary Life of Meaning and Success.
Helping women step confidently into intentional leadership is truly at the heart of what Tanya does and what she loves.
[8:57] The Meaning Behind It
One word that stood out to me when I first heard the title of Tanya’s new book was “meaning”. I think that’s the piece that’s missing for so many people out there. They’re pursuing success and they might achieve success, but is it really success if you don’t feel purposeful in what you’re doing or you don’t feel that significance or that meaning behind it?
According to Tanya, a lot of things will check the boxes of what looks good, but one of the biggest problems is we don’t ever take time to stop and define success on our own terms. The only way that we know if we’re successful is by looking around and going, okay, how am I doing compared to everybody else? So often we are uncomfortable getting out of our own comfort zone, that’s why it’s called a comfort zone, but we’re already uncomfortable in that comfort zone. Once we step out of that comfort zone, that’s when we have that growth and we can truly step into who we were designed to be.
[13:36] Choices
Things that come between us as we are today and the us that we could potentially become are our own choices. Extraordinary is a choice that we make on a regular basis.
Some of the choices that we can make each day are:
- Choosing to disrupt your patterns
- Choosing how we identify ourselves as entrepreneurs
- Choosing to focus, to narrow in and really pour ourselves into what matters
- Choosing to release our fears
- Choosing how we spend our time
- Acknowledge; simply acknowledge that you got off track, but don’t beat yourself up about it
- Asses; asses where you are, where you want to be and if your goals are still the same
- Adjust; adjust your habits and your goals if necessary
- Connect with Tanya https://tanyadalton.com/
- On Purpose: The Busy Woman’s Guide to an Extraordinary Life of Meaning and Success https://tanyadalton.com/onpurpose
- Intentional Advantage Podcast with Tanya Dalton https://tanyadalton.com/podcast
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